Break Babies


I know many of you are probably tired of hearing about these celebrities who take short breaks to have children, but who knows, there might be another scandalous reveal waiting in the wings. Don’t get me wrong; I believe children are one of the greatest blessings we can ever experience and for this reason it really troubles me–no, annoys the living daylights out of me–to hear how such a blessing can be overshadowed by foolishness. I guess the Huxtable ideal was just for television.

As you have heard by now Miami Heat star Dwayne Wade and rapper-turned-actor Ludacris have found themselves in the hot seat over their, shall we say, seeds from their relationship breaks with their girlfriends. Heck, Gabrielle Union barely had that gorgeous ring on her finger before word hit the streets and media outlets that Wade fathered a child while the two took a short break. It also looks like Ludacris’ longtime flame Eudoxie found herself in the same boat as the proud papa to daughter Karma just welcomed another child before the holidays. I won’t even touch the topic of random unprotected sex (I hope everyone involved got checked), but as you guys are both pretty paid, wouldn’t it have been cheaper to buy a $5 box of condoms ? I’m just saying.

Thankfully, from what we know (keyword) about Luda and Wade, they are pretty solid when it comes to taking care of their own. If you follow both on Instagram you will see the love they have for their children which one can only hope will extend to their new additions. My only question is directed towards Gabrielle and Eudoxie that only D’Angelo could say best, “how does it feel?” At what point as women do we draw the line when it comes to what we will and will not tolerate in a relationship? And don’t give me that “there ain’t no good men” rant because that is not true. Half the time we are so memorized by the “bad boy” that we often overlook the “safe ones” in fear that we might get bored. Or there’s the fear that time is running out and don’t want to be apart of the statistic of black women who never marry.

Granted it really comes down to one’s personal convictions but it just blows my mind to see some ladies who look to have good sense tolerate certain behavior in the name of love. Even if you were on a break, where was the love or even respect for our relationship that lasted years not to father a child with another women that was a good time during your hiatus? Would this be considered sticking with true love, or selling yourself short to keep a man? At the end of the day both ladies knew well before we all did about their men’s children so it’s on them to take them back in attempts to work things out, or cast them to the side. Though what goes on in people’s sheets is really none of any of our business, it’s really hard not to put in your two cents as we all have that one girlfriend (sometimes more) that we want to shake for accepting a relationship that is too crazy and complicated to deal with. I’m not saying there is a perfect man who is unblemished and has no problems but good gracious think about the emotional effects things like this can have on a person, let alone the children involved down the road. Why wasn’t I good enough to have a child with and she was? Why were so you trusting to have a sex with someone without protection? As you can predict, the list of questions can go on and on.

I personally am tired of the whole “ride or die” mentality because sometimes that journey is just too damaging to the soul. That doesn’t mean I won’t go hard for my relationship, but that I have personal convictions to “ride” with someone who can meet me halfway – and becoming a parent to someone else’s child on a break just doesn’t meet the criteria (for me). But hey we are all different and know what works best for us. While I would personally not take a man back after that news, I can only pray that those who decide to do some serious soul-searching before they recommit. Ask yourself if you can truly find the forgiveness in your heart to accept your new reality and live a life without animosity and/or bitterness.


Skinny Chicken Spaghetti!

Okay y’all it’s been a bit since my last blog post ( I will do better I promise…soon as finals is over) so here is one if my favorites to cook for my kiddos. Bryce loves this and asks for seconds(this is super rare) also it’s super easy and fewer calories than the version I originally found on pioneer



-3 oz. 100% whole wheat noodles
-1 10 oz. can of Rotel ( you can sub and use fresh tomatoes, peppers, blah blah- Rotel is quicker for me)
-1 10 oz. can of 98% fat free Cream of Mushroom
-1 10 oz. can of 98% fat free Cream of Chicken (yes, you can make your own Cream of Whatevers.. I’m lazy, and I don’t care that much)
-6 oz. frozen grilled chicken breast strips (you can use rotisserie chicken or any kind of chicken, this is what I had on hand)
-1 cup reduced fat shredded cheese (fat free cheese makes me want to poke my eyeballs out. sick)
-3 oz. whipped cream cheese (about 1/4 of the tub)
-pepper to taste

Preheat your oven to 350 degrees.
Grill the chicken breast strips. If by grill I mean put them in a frying pan and add some PAM and heat them up.
While you’re doing that, boil the wheat noodles. In water. Please don’t tell me I needed to clarify that.
When you’re done with the chicken, cut up the breasts into tiny bite size pieces. Like this


Drain the noodles and add them and the chicken to a 9×13 pan.
Add in the cream of mushroom, Rotel, and cream of chicken.

Then add in 1/2 cup of the reduced fat cheese and the whipped cream cheese and stir it all together.
It will not look very appeasing, trust me, IT IS.
Pepper to taste.
When it’s all mixed up sprinkle the remaining 1/2 cup of cheese on top and put it in the oven at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.
Super easy.

Wash day y’all!


Whether you’re newly natural or have been rocking your puffy halo for a while, or even a relaxed girl like myself; wash day should be easy. And it shouldn’t be a chore. We should feel relieved that we can flip our ‘fros and twirl our twist outs. Natural hair should be fun, fluffy and fancy free. So what’s the point if you’re taking just as much time as going to the beauty shop to do your hair when you’re natural?
If you don’t know, the phrase “wash day” is the day, not to be confused with a day of rest, that is reserved for grooming. For some women, wash day is a dance of complicated steps involving multiple products and oils and conditioning caps in an effort to achieve the perfect balance of moisture and softness. To that I say, wash DAY? A whole day? Really? I don’t have time for that. Actually, I won’t even entertain pretending like I’m making time for that. My “wash day” usually consists of the following (I’m also including my fav products):

Prepoo….if I feel like I need the extra moisture not a mandatory step (L’Oreal Total Repair conditioner mixed with EVOO) cover with plastic cap for 30 mins; during this time I’m usually doing something around the house or watching tv.

Shampoo 2x (L’Oreal Total Repair shampoo)

If I feel like it… tea rinse (Lipton black tea)

Deep condition (whatever conditioner I have on hand mixed with either EVOO or coconut oil) for 30 mins. I don’t sit under a dryer or steamer but I do put on a plastic cap and I typically am moving around so the body heat I generate is enough for me.

After rinsing I normally let my hair air dry for about 20 mins before I put my leave ins on my hair (Cantu Shea Butter leave in conditioner, Organix Coconut Milk anti breakage serum)

Then, I either wrap my hair if I plan on wearing it straight or I will Bantu knot it for the week
Total I spend maybe 1.5-2hours max on my “wash day” but honey some people I know and some blogs I’ve run across take the Wash Day at its total literal meaning LOL!

Within the last five years, so many companies launched hair care lines devoted to natural hair. Tons of products definitely increases our choice, but also increases our desire to stock our linen closets with six different conditioners—all still half-full—that sit there, unused like a coin collection. It makes sense that newly natural women try more products because figuring out what works is a valid challenge. But for the rest of us a few years (or decades) into the natural game, get a trusted product lineup and stick with it. Keep it simple. Using less product saves time and effort, and makes wash day fly by. Streamlining those products helps to keep wash day antics to a minimum. Your living space isn’t doubling as a meth lab, so there’s no reason to put the entire pantry and the contents under the kitchen sink on your hair and call it a hydrating masque. Ma’am. Stop it. No, seriously, stop it before you smell fumes.
Having a routine also helps to cut down on grooming time. Washing your hair should be like taking a shower. Not many people truly dread bathing, they just do it. Lather, rinse, repeat. It’s that simple. But not us. We want to co-wash, deep condition, suffer through awful smelling protein treatments, sit under the dryer for 47 minutes until hair glues itself to the top of the hooded dryer, rinse the hair for 12 more minutes, slather on extra virgin olive oil hot oil treatment on, sit under the dryer again for 21 minutes because 15 just doesn’t ‘feel’ long enough, rinse again, then finally begin to style. Who does that? Well, a lot of us actually.
The most important thing to note here is that there’s nothing wrong with natural hair that needs fixing. Unless you’re sleeping without a bonnet or satin pillowcase every night or rushing through combing your hair, you most likely don’t have glaring issues with your hair. And, this is especially true if your hair isn’t color-treated. That means there’s no need to always do all of the extra treatments and put in the the “just in case” products. Part of going natural is learning to be okay with what you’ve got. Letting go of trying to achieve perfectly formed zig zags, curls and coils with an array of products doesn’t mean you’re doomed to be unkempt. Besides, if it’s a humid day, fluffy hair will probably frizz even if a $22 curl activating serum is bonded to each coil. Hair will find a way to behave the way it wants. Let it do that.
Seriously, if you want to wash your hair on Saturday morning, do it. Just don’t take all day.

Get your mind right Mondays!!!!

Okay so here’s a little goal making list that I swiped from is a good way to prep for the week and make you hold yourself accountable for those pesky unaccomplished tasks. Also to remind you of what you should be thankful for (Thanksgiving is Thursday y’all). So here’s my list and feel free to make your own.


Set up dental appointment for Madison
Make mini cheesecakes for Bryce’s thanksgiving dinner and his preschool
Finish unpacking and cleaning the kitchen
Organize my closet
Go through Maddie and Bryce’s toys to make space for new stuff
Be more intentional/organized with Bryce and Madison’s learning time
All laundry and clean the floors in every room
Make some changes to my weekly schedule

I am Grateful For:
The health and well being of my friends and family
The opportunities coming my way
Less stress since making the big move
Blasts of energy I’ve been getting lately
My knees not being in crazy pain with this weather change
Bentley (our family daschund) being house trained

Clean the house top to bottom
Fix up the kids play area *hangs head in shame*

Food prep!!!!!

Now I am a newbie nowhere near an expert or guru when it comes down to this fitness thing but I do have a few things I’ve learned about food prep so let’s share y’all!

1. Make your food taste good. In the beginning I would eat bland foods like chicken breast, broccoli and brown rice. While I still do that, I also have more variety in what I can choose from. I honestly can’t eat plain chicken breast anymore.
2. Prepare 3-4 days in advance. Sometimes if you cook more than you need to you end up wasting food.
3. For the vegetables and fruits that need to be cut and cooked daily put them in a place you can see daily. I have mine out on the counter.
4. You can pre-pack in tupperware containers to make it easier to grab and go. I usually like to choose what combinations I want to put into the tupperware daily so I don’t pre-package anymore.
5. I love eating raw, ‘live’ foods most – so don’t be intimidated by the preparation process. Some foods don’t require any cooking! Like salads, fruits and certain vegetables.
6. This will take time to master, especially if you are new to cooking in advance, but you will become more efficient as you continue to cook weekly.
Here is what I cooked this week:
1. BOILED EGGS: I try to each protein with each meal and have found boiled eggs to be the handiest thing to have when on the go. I can either eat them as is or mash it up and add pepper and some fat free mayo or avocado to give it some texture and taste. I don’t always eat all the yolks, most often its a 1 to 3 ratio.
2. AVOCADOS: I love this unsaturated, healthy fat. I always have fresh ones on hand to either make into guacamole for my husband or add to my sauteed egg whites in the morning. I believe avocado makes everything tastes better!
3. VEGAN COOKIES: My cookie jar is always stocked with either healthy muffins or cookies for my children. In fact, I don’t think they’ve ever tasted store bought cookies, except for at the occasional birthday party.
4. BAGGED VEGGIES/SALAD MIX: I bought string beans and pre-made salad mixes. Typically I only used 1/3 of the dressing provided in any of the packages to decrease the calories and sugar. I usually eat this at night when I serve my family something more starchy and I opt for a lighter menu.
5. FRESH FRUITS: I picked these miniature peaches from my friend’s yard today. My boys often eat 2-3 fruits a day. I will probably make these into muffins later on in the week as it gets more ripe.
6. APPLES/LEMONS/LIMES: Apples is my favorite fruit to eat for energy. They are low on the glycemic index and great pre or post workout. Our family favorite are pink ladies. I also have a bowl of lemons on our counter at all times as I squeeze lemon juice in all my waters to give it taste and help detox me.
7. BANANA MUFFINS: I bake banana muffins weekly. We always have a couple bananas that are too ripe to eat and my mother often gives me her ripe bananas to bake with. The boys love this simple and healthy recipe.
8. FROZEN BLUEBERRIES: I have to emphasis ‘frozen’ because that’s how we like to eat them in our household. I always wash them after buying and put the entire container in the freezer. It’s usually the first thing I eat in the morning followed by my egg whites 30 minutes after.
9. BROCCOLI SALAD: My girlfriend helped me make this dish today. I love broccoli salad! We used 3/4 cup of my smart beat mayo. 2tbs apple cider vinegar and 2 tbs honey for the dressing. I also used almonds instead of sunflower seeds (I wasn’t prepared to make this obviously) and didn’t add any raisins (to lower the sugar content).
10. SHREDDED CHICKEN: I like to keep cooked chicken in the fridge mostly because if I need to fix a quick dinner (like chicken enchiladas made with whole wheat tortillas and fat free cheese) I have it on hand. I can also add some smartbeat mayo and make a quick chicken salad.
11. CUCUMBERS: I don’t often have cucumbers on hand, but I was craving it at the store today and plan on making cucumber salad this week. Again, I’m all about the raw, ‘live’ foods.
12. TUNA SALAD: One of my absolute favorite things to eat. Canned tuna made with smartbeat mayo, red onion, avocado and pepper.
13. MANGO SALSA: This is a family favorite. I’ve never been a big fan of tomatoes but I can eat spoonfuls of this salsa. Just like avocado it seems like adding it to any dish makes everything better. This portion size usually lasts us just a couple days as my husband is a huge fan (and so is baby!)
14. ROASTED BUTTERNUT SQUASH: I usually roast squash and sweet potatoes to prep my carbs for the week. I’ve been trying to be ‘more paleo’ and haven’t been intaking much oatmeal in the morning. Instead I either have my blueberries or squash with my egg whites. I can also eat this with any of my other protein choices. I love it because it’s sweet and savory. I add olive oil and salt and place it in a 425 degree oven for 25-30 minutes (time depends if I cut it in halves or quarters).
15. STRAWBERRIES: This fruit is a constant in our household. The boys love it and so do I. Funny that when I was young, I used to dip them in sugar when I consumed it. I can’t believe I used to do that! It’s so sweet naturally on its own.
16. TURKEY MEATBALLS: Family Staple! Very easy to make and the boys love it! I’ve changed my original recipe somewhat to accommodate my wheat intolerance. I add garlic, onion, parsley, spinach, almond flour, egg, salt, a dash of worcestershire sauce and mix with lean ground turkey meat. I place in a 350 degree oven for 15-17 minutes (if they are baking in miniature muffin tins).


Maria Kang…..Supermom or SuperBully????


Hello Beautiful Readers! They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but in regards to Maria Kang, it must be in the millions. Unless you’ve been avoiding all media lately, I’m talking about the picture of SuperMom – Maria Kang. Maria posted a picture of herself on Facebook wearing boy shorts and a sports bra. Below, were her three children with a caption that read “What’s Your Excuse?” The thing that set so many folks off was that she was incredibly fit for a mom of three, and people felt she was fat-shaming others for not looking like her. Some even went so far as to tell her to put her clothes on because they felt she was sending out the wrong message. Now you might be asking yourself..”what does this have to do with me?” The answer. Everything.
Maria Kang could just as easily be you or someone you know. Someone who has made a conscious decision to not let the responsibilities of motherhood put her fitness on the sideline. If you know me, then I give an applause for what she’s about. I believe the backlash has been nothing short of ridiculous. How is this fat shaming!? I’m a firm believer in working hard to get what you want and taking your life I your own hands. On the contrary, motherhood should inspire you even more to put your fitness at the forefront. Want more energy to play with your kids? Do you feel like your eating habits have taken a wrong turn? Well, you have the power to change all that. All it takes is better planning and a desire to make the changes.
Let’s imagine that you were in Maria Kang’s shoes. You’re raising your kids. You’re handling your responsibilities. You’ve put in the time to make sure you feel and look your best. But are you being selfish? Are you in shape just for your own personal vanity? Are you fat-shaming because you care about your health as a mother and want to inspire others? Do you see just how crazy it seems now? People will do their best to try to derail positive actions when it makes them question their own situation. Think of all the positive light you could bring if you took charge of your health. Imagine having the body of your dreams and the energy to play with your children. What would you be willing to sacrifice to have that fitter, healthier lifestyle? You see the reality is, Maria Kang has the same tools you each have. She simply has chosen to utilize hers. Hopefully, she had the support from family support and friends. But you can’t let lack of family support hamper your fitness endeavors. Just like Maria, you’ll face haters and naysayers. They’ll come in the form of friends, co-workers and loved ones. They may even call you a bully. While I believe that the term bully has no place in the situation, but if being a bully means you get to live a fitter and healthier lifestyle, then I say bully on!

Situation Celebration: Madison’s 8th Birthday


Kay so I’m about a week and a half late but here’s a bit of my princesses 8th birthday! Check out that tutu y’all! I made that for her after watching countless youtube vids and getting mad at the tutu prices on Etsy I decided to go for it and 3 hours later this marvelous creation is what happened.

Now I am all about DIY and saving money, especially being a single mom of two, and a good majority of this party was DIY from the tutu to the table decorations even the food(except for the cake)


This is our goody bag/box table the girls really got a kick of the cute little boxes cooler than your usual gift bag, I purchased the boxes from my local Dollar Tree and 4 came in each package and I bought 3 packages


We had a face painting and glitter tattoo station for all the girls these kits were purchased in the clearance section at target $6 for both!! Win and there is still enough left over for a future party.


One of our 4 party games was a “mummy fashion show” with toilet paper! Cute huh??

I kept the menu pretty simple:
Birthday cake
Mini “monster burgers”
Graveyard pudding cups

All in all we had a wonderful celebration for my babies birthday, she enjoyed every minute of it.


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